Claimer: This is not one of the “Do-this-in-college” or “Do-this-and-enjoy-the-way-I-did type of post. Rather it is a combination of lessons learnt from my successes and failures.
Rather maybe you can have dissenting views or even capitalize on my mistakes and views here. This is open to criticism and maybe you can add your own views here.
So then here is the Top 7 things that I learnt.
1. It is not where you are. It is how you are.
This is a question that pondered me over a long time of whether I am in the right place and I am doing what I am supposed to do? Am I even doing something that interests me or am I just whiling away my precious time.
The point of whether being in the place I am interested in solved on its own and I did find my interests but in the initial days I was always affected by this question of where I am and what I am doing here. After 4 years of college life I can say this that I dont regret being there. One of the primary reasons I feel people complain about this issue is because they are not able to do anything in that place. To them it will look like a failure. If you consider yourself to be at an useless point it doesnt mean life has left you at a deadend. It just means you have led life into a deadend.
It is the case as to how big institutions are built. Not by the walls around them but by the students in them. If you are in a college that is not at the helm of things, I think you are lucky. Because you have the chance to bring it to the top rather climb on the mountain already scaled by others.
2. Time Management needs more practice than skill.
My typical day after classes would be followed by volleyball practice for 2 hours, assignments, club meetings, my own personal indulgences like TV shows, etc. Initially it was tough keeping everything together. But later I got better in doing all the things together. I used to think I have a better time management plan but the thing was that I had done so much by then I had practice.
One of the main thing that I dont include for is allowance. Like for example transit time between court to hostel, mess to hostel, etc. During studies I didnt account for the distractions and I had just put in like 2 hours of effective studying which never is the case and ends of 4 hours of overall studying.
3. If you do things you like, you will not regret it later.
There is always a risk in pursuing passion versus academics. For me, there was always somehow the best of the two worlds. But there was a time I had to make a heavy choice between playing and academics. Of course, my grades tanked that semester.
But if you would ask me, I felt so liberated. Playing one round of volleyball would clear my mind of tension that would have been brought by the whole semester. I never regret that decision.
4. You cant be friends with everybody.
However nice you are. However right you are. However just the world maybe. You just cant be friends with all. It is not possible to have human relationship be constant for all humans. It is natural for every being to differ and you are not the reason for it.
5. Friends are not the persons to form a group to do a project.
This is resonant in many other social networking sites too. We include friends in a project thinking that there might be a better chemistry between us all. But the thing, we tend to let ourselves off the hook thinking it is only our friend in the group and at last either the project goes bad or the friendship goes bad or worse, both go bad.
6. It is never late to start something new.
I started learning how to speak better in college. I started to write this blog, how much ever slow paced and once in a while possible in college. So it was never too late for me to start something new. I was so glad that I ventured into so many new things that they affected my life in every least bit possible.
7. Friends are hard to come. Even harder to let go.
I just cant explain this in words. Since it is after college too, this feeling is coming to me more than ever.